Broken

While sulking may feel/be necessary at times, it’s likely the release of a cry at the end that makes it worth it. You see, sulking is like thoughtfully processing something emotional; yet, it’s emotional, so it’s not meant to be ‘thoughtful’. When sulking, it’s very difficult to avoid coming up with stories about yourself, circumstances, or others as justification for your feelings. The more you go down this road — without at least acknowledging you’re on it — the more complicated relationships may become.

In nature, if your heart rate increases, your blood pressure rises, and your chest feels a tingle/slight pain you have identified an immediate threat in your surroundings. Your mind’s job is to explain the possibilities, figure out the worst possible outcome, and create a plan/strategy for escape or domination. In today’s society, it’s quite different; your mind looks for problems every time you feel a bit ‘off’ from normal, creates scenarios to explain why you feel this way that aren’t even real, and then you become stuck in a pattern of thoughts and judgments that are figments of your imagination.

At times, it feels impossible to avoid feeling deep sadness. This is especially true with the topics of death and dying, relationships, and massive shifts in lifestyle/life situation. Of course, once you feel sadness, you’ll have an opportunity to feel into it, allow it, and move past it; or,lose yourself in the feeling. The choice, as always, is yours.

Depending upon the action you take — albeit productive or unproductive — the result in how you feel will be radically different. Sometimes, it may feel more productive to lash out when you feel down, but that’s probably going to create an even more negative vibe around you, leading towards more negative interactions, and repeating the cycle. On the other hand, there are some actions I would recommend you take when feeling sad or upset. For example:

• help another person
• get some exercise
• do something nice for somebody
• eat food that is good for you and flavorful
• concentrate on love, thought, and feeling

In a sense, you have three bodies: physical, emotional, and spiritual. Your physical body is what you’d typically think of as your body, as it feels physical pain, excitement, muscle contractions, heart racing, etc. Your emotional body detects how you feel, whether it’s sad, happy, in love, excited, humbled, etc. And your spiritual body gauges how conscious you are of that which is non-physical. Thoughts don’t belong with your emotional body, so it’s best to evaluate your emotional body by simply observing how you’re feeling and letting the feeling process it’s way out of your body

When you separate out your emotional body into it’s own body, it helps give perspective. Thoughts and stories don’t belong with emotions. They are powerful and meant to be felt on their own, at least at first. If we quickly attach ‘reasons’ why we feel a certain way, the feeling may intensify, solidify, and scar down in the form of subconscious belief patterns that do not serve you. Instead, ‘observe’ how you feel, allow yourself time to process an emotion for ‘what’ it is, rather than why it is, so you can feel better.